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two decades

By Tara Zandra | July 13, 2012

So my 20-year hs reunion is this weekend. Now I wasn’t invited because I honestly don’t know the people organzing it and apparently they only went through facebook. I can assume nothing was mailed since I did go to the last reunion and have lived at the same address for almost 13 years and have had the same name for almost 16 years. So while in theory I debated going this year, once I found out about it and realized I was not on the invite list, I let that make my decision for me. In all honesty, I don’t think I care.

Facebook put me back in touch with people from high school. Most of them sent me a request as opposed to the other way around. Not because I was popular (or I wouldn’t have been overlooked for the reunion, now would I?) but because, I’m guessing, the novelty of facebook made them want everyone they went to high school with as a friend. Many times I’d get the request and wonder why since we hadn’t been friends before. But I did say yes many times because, well, I am a curious person. I wanted to know who was married and how many kids they had. But after my curiosity was sated, turns out I just didn’t care and furthermore, I wasn’t interested in them seeing my posts. Goodness forbid the person who sat behind me in biology in tenth grade know what I had for dinner- I get the riduculousness, trust me. But still, I am semi-particular about who I keep as a friend on facebook. Over time I’ve blocked some from seeing any of my posts and others I’ve simply unfriended. Why one over the other, I don’t know; I didn’t say it was a scientific thought process.

I do care about people I worked with. I guess that’s my equivalent of college friends. I have attended a couple Disneyland reunions and will attend future ones. That’s assuming I can get over my pre-reunion jitters. I was so fucking nervous the last time, that we arrived and left within a 10-minute span. Pathetic.

So the real point of this post is the obligatory, “Holy shit how has it been 20-years?!” post. Seriously. The first 18 years of my life, of which I don’t even remember the first 3, went agonizingly slow. I didn’t have a bad childhood or anything, unusual is some ways, yes, but altogether not bad, so it’s not like I was counting down to the time I could get out. I didn’t even leave home until I was 21 and properly engaged. So those first 18 years took for-ev-er and the last 20? Whoosh! There they went!

I saw a pin the other day (on Pinterest who for those who don’t know what a pin is) that said “I still think 1990 was like 10 years ago.” Bingo!

Of course, the last 20 years have honestly been the absolute best years of my life. I do not look back on high school with nostalgia. Some people seemed to have peaked in high school and haven’t recovered yet. Me? High school was fine, but I truly don’t care about it. Adulthood though has been amazing. At some point I guess I’ll get old enough where it starts to go downhill (hello revisited diaper years!) but for right now, this moment, I have no need, no desire, to rehash four years of my life with people that mean nothing to me.*

*Excepting a handful of people of course, I’m not totally devoid of sentimental feelings.

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2 Responses to “two decades”

  1. Mel Says:
    July 14th, 2012 at 12:11 pm

    I’ve never gone to any of my hs reunions. I had a handful of friends and the ones I still like I keep in touch with which aren’t that many actually, maybe 3. The rest of the school? Well, who gives a crap? Reading my 20 year reunion blog made me so glad I did NOT go because it was only pictures, posts, and stories about the ones that, as you said, peaked back then. It seemed a little sad and desperate.

  2. Mandi Says:
    July 16th, 2012 at 10:05 pm

    I agree completely about how fast the last 20 years have FLOWN by. I was thinking about that earlier today actually. I was thinking about how I don’t think of myself as almost 40, in my head I’m still 20-something. How can so many years go by so fast? It’s crazy!