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Not a milestone I was looking forward to

By Tara Zandra | August 1, 2009

So Tabitha lost another tooth this afternoon. I had her put it under her pillow right then so she wouldn’t forget. Fast forward to this evening and she’s in bed. Maybe 10 minutes later, she comes out and tells us that she doesn’t believe in the tooth fairy and knows it’s us and then got just a tad on the teary side.

While I was hugging her, I asked what made her think we were the tooth fairy and she refused to answer. So I have no idea if she awoke one night, or overheard us talking, or a friend convinced her, or just the fact that she’s 10 and a half now led to this conclusion.

I really wasn’t sure what to do as she caught me a bit off-guard so I just asked her what she wanted us to do now and she didn’t know. I got out my wallet and gave her $3 for her Disney fund and told her to bring me the tooth because that’s the tooth fairy deal.

I’m not sure where this is leading. I’ve always maintained that Santa/Easter Bunny/Tooth Fairy only visit children who believe and when you stop believing, they don’t come anymore. On that premise, I never once told my mother I didn’t believe and got gifts from Santa until I moved out. Tabitha kind of still has to get a gift from Santa simply because of Daisy.

I don’t know where I’m going with this. I guess I feel cheated out of the magic because it’s something I enjoyed. I’ve just been all too aware lately that her “little girl” days are severely numbered and this one hit me hard. I put on a brave face in front of her, but really just wanted to cry.

She still loves her dolls and playing with toys, 10 isn’t that old yet, right?


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3 Responses to “Not a milestone I was looking forward to”

  1. DD Says:
    August 2nd, 2009 at 8:16 am

    No, 10 isn’t that old, but it’s a double-digit age and one that brings children angst. She wants to believe in the Tooth Fairy (hell, I do, too!), but is realizing there’s logic and reality to deal with. I think you handled that much better than I would have.

  2. Vanessa Says:
    August 2nd, 2009 at 9:52 am

    Aww, Mom! {{hugs}}

    I think 10 is an in-between age. I can definitely see it in Gillian, who is still very much a little girl in some ways, but in others, not so much. (As far as the kid pantheon goes, she believed fervently in the Easter Bunny as of this most recent Easter, but last week she lost a tooth and never put it under her pillow or said anything about the Tooth Fairy. Hmm.) It freaks me out, but then I think back to when I turned 10 (in 1981, OMG) and I remember the exact same thing happening to me, so it must be normal. Hard on us moms, but normal.

  3. Marion Says:
    August 3rd, 2009 at 7:07 am

    Ah…I know how you are feeling! My youngest just turned 12, and around 10 she started the serious quesions about it all…made me very sad!
    They all get Santa gifts still…..I guess I’ll always do a Santa gift…for my own piece of mind..LOL
    Kids…they do have to grow up…dont’ they….
    feeling a little sad, as my oldest is going to university next month.